I am trying to think of a time where social media wasn't taking over my life ... but I honestly cannot remember a time before it.
It all started with the silly AOL chat rooms ... and making perverted old men think I was somehow this 17year old girl (still not old enough to be acceptable...) but I was 13 and dumb so 17 was "old enough" in my eyes. Old enough for what you may ask? Not sure, just old enough.
Many of these AOL conversations were cut short thanks to my momma who ALWAYS had to call my tias to have hour long conversations. Thinking about it now, those conversations probably saved my life.
Soon after AOL died and using an avatar as a profile picture was no longer cool things progressed to an even better platform MYSPACE.
Who could forget those great old myspace days. Spending HOURS picking the perfect background, with the perfect song, all while choosing your top 4 friends for the week, instead of doing homework.
Looking back I think Myspace was one of the greatest social media platforms because in a way it taught us about coding.
You know the whole <p>pink<p> stuff?<p></pink><p> (see what I did there? haha)
Somehow Myspace was too much or not enough because eventually Facebook made an appearance. I remember when I first logged onto Facebook, it was all so simple. No top 5? No background? .... what's the point?!
In the blink of an eye facebook took over and Myspace became a thing of the past, kinda like casset players.
I'm kinda shocked facebook is still going strong ... but I guess we can thank our grandparents for that one.
I am not a morning person but the other day I woke up well rested around 8am.. and I thought "it's a beautiful day to go out and do something"... so I did what I do best and picked up my phone and started living vicariously through the posts of strangers/friends I follow on social media.
Around 11a.m. I thought wow, where has my morning gone?!
Honestly, I am ashamed.
When did I become so dependent on posting something everyday?
When did I become so invested in someone else's life whom I've never even met. A day without social media?, yeah nope, that's never crossed my mind.
That is when I discovered ...
I WAS ADDICTED to social media.
I could have easily gotten up, made breakfast, gone on a run, wrote a blog post, started a new book. Instead I chose to spend my morning using my thumb to scroll while alternating through different apps.
I realized that I was my own worst enemy.
The way I choose to invest my time is the way I am choosing to shape my life... and um, while there are people making a living out of social media... I am not part of that percentage so I have to invest my time in a more fulfilling form.
Not sure how I got to this point.. but I know change was needed.
At least a small change because usually any sorta change is good.
If you're on the same boat as me.. starting to feel stagnant in life.. don't get too comfortable. !!Shake things up!!!
You don't have to go rouge like me and delete all of your social apps.. but definitely try to do something different.
Start on that project you deem impossible.
Search for people who have similar goals as yours (or just goals). Just get up and go... or if you're in a good place in life where you feel like social media isn't COMPLETELY taking over your life.. I still strongly encourage you take a break from it. It feels so nice to be disconnected from the social world to be able to socialize in the REALWORLD. Not that you can't do both.
I've been feeling a bit encouraged to start focusing on a passion of mine that I've always put to the side because I don't fully believe in myself.
So here I am... in a writing class with a group of people who share similar goals as mine and besides the noise coming from everyone's keyboards, it is quiet, and I feel in my element.
PS. It's been a whole week since I've deleted all of my apps and I won't lie... I do kinda miss socializing online.. but that's another post to write ;)
Somehow this "Travelblog" turned into a life column about my terrible dating life experiences and feelings... so I'm terribly sorry for those of you who started reading my blog for the purpose of my travel stories. I'll add a travel story to the mix soon.
THANKYOU for reading
also, !!HAPPYBIRTHDAY!! to my babysister who faithfully reads my posts. I love you, I am proud of you, you are the most kind hearted, hard working, talented ...etc etc baby sister in the entire world.
You inspire me.
I love you.